11 Reasons We Should De-stigmatize Blowjobs
Over the year’s blowjobs have gained a bit of an unfortunate reputation, but we’re here to banish the stigma and help everyone enjoy going down. Whether it’s a task you loathe but want to love or something you already enjoy and want to shout off the rooftops about – we’re on a mission to take blowjobs off the taboo list.
Bawdy founder Sylwia Wiesenberg tells us, ‘for me, foreplay has to involve oil and hands - for fun, playful massage Blow is perfect…I can apply it on intimate parts, and because it is edible, the massage doesn’t have to be only with hands!” Still not sure you’re ready to destigmatize blowjobs? Here are 11 more reasons that might convince you:
1. You don’t have to rely on your natural lube
Sometimes things aren’t always as silky smooth as you’d like them to be. That’s ok! Performance anxiety can get the better of you, and your mouth can feel as dry as a desert. If dryness puts you off giving or receiving blowjobs, think about adding an oral-safe lubricant into your playtime. If you and your partner use condoms, don’t forget to check the lube is safe for use with latex.
2. You don’t need to deepthroat
Despite what you might think, deeper doesn’t necessarily mean better. There are tons of blowjob tricks you can use to make the experience enjoyable for everyone involved. If you don’t want to take too much in your mouth, bring your hands in on the act: relieve the pressure of needing to go deeper and deeper! And don’t forget, only take part in play you’re comfortable with: no one should push you into doing anything you don’t want to.
3. It’s not all about a big finish
Regardless of what porn would like to make you think, you don’t have to be in it for the O. You and your partner can enjoy blowjobs without them ending in an orgasm. Groundbreaking idea, right? You can enjoy giving head to bring your partner pleasure before moving on to having more fun doing something else.
4. It’s about more than just the shaft
As unlikely as it is that your partner would complain if you spend your time focusing on their penis, you might want a break from the arduous task of bobbing up and down. Let us introduce you to balls. Gently massaging their balls while you take a break from the more challenging work will rock their world and make the job more enjoyable for you.
5. Don’t like sucking? Try licking!
Just because one technique gives you the ick doesn’t mean there isn’t a type of blowjob you might enjoy giving instead. Licking your partner’s penis can be just as enjoyable for them as having you full-on putting it in your mouth. If you’re more into licking than sucking, Bad Girl’s Bible recommends focusing on the tip to give your partner a mind-blowing experience.
6. Embrace your natural textures
Think about how many different textures there are in your mouth. Soft, hard, smooth, ridged… Each of these areas offers a different sensation for you and your partner. Experimentation is key here, don’t be afraid to ask what they like and what feels good, so you know which areas to go back to again and again.
7. It can be about looks, too…
You know the saying “people eat with their eyes first” well, that’s never more true than when it comes to BJs. Act up for the occasion. Make it about more than just what you’re doing with your mouth. Seeing you enjoy yourself is hot! So let your hair down and go with the flow. If you’re good at multitasking, you can even try playing with yourself while you’re going down on them. Like we said: hot.
8. Share the pleasure
Pleasure is about both parties giving. If you want in on the action, too, mutual masturbation or 69ing could open the gates to new levels of pleasure for both of you. If you want to elevate the experience, try giving your partner instructions to help them make you feel incredible. Chances are they’ll reciprocate, and you’ll both be reaching cloud (sixty) nine in no time..!
9. Add some sparkle
Well, sparkling wine. We’re talking Champagne, pro secco, even sparkling water if alcohol isn’t your thing. Take a sip and hold it in your mouth before going down. The bubbles will create a gentle new sensation that’s bound to drive your partner crazy (in the best way!) Create a sense of occasion and slip on your cutest sexy outfit to add to the experience.
10. Go easy on them
If your partner struggles with keeping their load, and you find yourself unable to try out new things with them, using a very gentle touch might help them stay in the moment for longer. If you know there’s a move that always pushes them over the edge, consider saving it until you’ve had time to enjoy each other for a little while.